That's not the whole story.

I had a conversation with my wife the other day about how by looking at people's instagrams, you are given the wrong impression about what it's like to have a child. Watching stories about the child laughing and doing silly things is delightful.

Our 3-month old is totally affecting us in ways we didn't anticipate — and not all necessarily in ways that are emotionally easy to deal with, like struggling to find time with the spouse, being in a state of anxiety and stress when the child won't stop crying, among other things... I'm sure other parents can relate.

Just a casual reminder that, while I think many of us have struggles that give us trouble on a day-to-day basis, it's not so easy to share these things on social media. What you see online is almost always not the whole story, and that everyone has something that's difficult, perplexing, or troublesome in front of them.

Thank you, mom and dad.

My newborn is about 3 days old now, and what I've learned so far is that taking care of a newborn isn't technically difficult, as in, the tasks required of you don't require the hands of a surgeon by any means. But the baby's constant crying and need for attention every few hours gnaws at you. But that's just the logistical side. Everyone who has a kid understands this.

The stuff that I was particularly interested in finding out was the emotional side. What does it actually feel like to be a parent? What are the emotions?

And what I discovered is that I can best sum up my feelings with these 5 words: "Thank you, mom and dad."

Thank you for being there when I cried.

Thank you for feeding me countless times when I didn't even have a clue how to eat.

Thank you for burping me to relieve my discomforts when I didn't even know why I was uncomfortable after eating.

Thank you for cleaning up my poop and pee because I had no idea when and where to do that either.

Thank you for calming me down when I needed to be comforted, for no apparent reason other than "I just feel like crying unless someone gives me attention."

Thank you, I will eternally be grateful, and I would have only understood what you went through had I gone through it myself.

A New Chapter

My wife is about to give birth to our son today.

Life will change dramatically, or so I'm told.

Fundamentally, I think the mission to be a good husband still remains the same, and life goes on as I had expected.

But taking care of a baby is probably unlike anything else I've ever done before. I'm pretty excited.

Updates to come.