That's not the whole story.

I had a conversation with my wife the other day about how by looking at people's instagrams, you are given the wrong impression about what it's like to have a child. Watching stories about the child laughing and doing silly things is delightful.

Our 3-month old is totally affecting us in ways we didn't anticipate — and not all necessarily in ways that are emotionally easy to deal with, like struggling to find time with the spouse, being in a state of anxiety and stress when the child won't stop crying, among other things... I'm sure other parents can relate.

Just a casual reminder that, while I think many of us have struggles that give us trouble on a day-to-day basis, it's not so easy to share these things on social media. What you see online is almost always not the whole story, and that everyone has something that's difficult, perplexing, or troublesome in front of them.

You are a human too.

Maybe the phrase "love yourself" has become cliché. But if you dig into the phrase a little bit, I feel there's a lot of significant meaning there.

It means to treat yourself with the same respect you'd treat others you care about. It means to be empathic, compassionate, and caring towards yourself, the same way you'd be empathetic, compassionate, and caring for your loved ones.

Go exercising, cause that's how you treat your body well. Let your mind explore and try new things to quench your creative thirst. Explore current or new hobbies or find a new passion project. The ideas are endless.

Basically, if a significant person in your life came up to you and said, "Hey, I'm thinking of trying ___." As long as that thing wasn't harmful to others or themselves, wouldn't you want them to try it, see what comes of it, learn from it, be invigorated by the process of learning, and watch them grow?

Yet, somehow, we find ourselves always doubting ourselves and getting in our own way instead of being that supportive friend that we are to others. Why is that?